Tips for family and friends of those with eating disorders (diagnosed or suspected):
DO
* Learn as much as you can about eating disorders.
* Find an appropriate time and place to talk to the person in private.
* Be honest, communicate your concerns using "I Statements" about behaviors you have personally observed (e.g. "I notice you never go out to eat with us anymore," NOT "You aren't eating enough.").
* Be caring but firm.
* Stress the importance of professional help.
* Express your continued support.
* Validate the person's feelings, struggles, and accomplishments.
DON'T
* Don't be afraid to approach the person.
* Don't engage in a power struggle or try to control the person's eating.
* Don't attempt to solve or "fix" their problem.
* Don't comment on calorie/food intake, weight, appearance, etc.
* Don't promise to keep it a secret.
* Don't expect to do this perfectly.